Can you get a sexual transmitted disease from your sex toy? The short answer is YES! One of the causes celebrated in the month of April is STD’s Education and Awareness; and BK by Tj wants to help spread knowledge about how to protect yourselves and your partner from being exposed to STD’s through your sex toys. STD’s have a limited life span outside of the body. However, the potential to share an STD does exist if an infected user shares a toy with a non-infected user. Keeping your toys clean and cleaning your toys with the correct type of cleaning solution is important. Most manufacturers provide instructions for storing and cleaning its toys, but just in case you decided not to read the information and threw all that packaging crap away - check out "How to Clean Your Sex Toys Based on Materials" by Spicy Gear on

Sex toys are made of many different types of materials to include jelly rubber, PVC, TPR, elastomer, Sil-a-gel, Glass, skin like materials, stainless steel and more! It is important to consider what material you choose because of how your body may react to the material, cleaning maintenance required, storage options and porosity. A proactive first step to ensuring you are making safety conscious decisions is to ensure you purchase sex toys that are non-porous. This usually means that the product will be body safe and be easier to clean. Bedroom Kandi products are made of surgical grade silicon and ABS plastic, which are body safe materials and ensure long lasting durability. These products are easy to clean with warm water and a mild soap. If your interested in reading more about BK products, check out BK by Tj's online boutique.

We often hear a lot about putting healthy foods in your body; well the same applies for sex aids. Educating yourself about what constitutes healthy massagers, lubricants and even underwear/lingerie should be considered to guarantee long lasting and healthy sexual experiences. Stay tuned as BK by Tj ~ A Healthy Loving Boutique provides tidbits about healthy loving on future blogs. Until next time….keep it clean!

For more information:

The Kinsey Institute talks about “Sex Toy Safety for a New Generation”.  This articles talks about the materials sex toys are made of and shows the porosity level of each material in relation to other materials.

Check out Go Ask Alice’s response to a student’s question about contaminated sex toys. This forum is Columbia University’s health Q&A Internet resource supported by a team of health promotion specialists, health care providers, and other health professionals, along with a staff of information and research specialists and writers; whom have advanced degrees in public health, health education, medicine, counseling, and many other relevant fields. BK by Tj does not have any affiliation with this organization and is sharing the link for information purposes only.

I hope everyone enjoyed the month of March. Causes celebrated during this month include Endometriosis Awareness, Nutrition, and Women's History.  My favorite is Women's History........Happy Women in History Month! I had prepared a whole interactive post for this month’s blog, but the technology matrix decided to pull an okie doke on me and deleted all my written thoughts, so unfortunately this is going to be a short one. The short and skinny of my collected thoughts gathered from my readings about women's history is that mainstream media outlets published many articles about women in history; and the main difference between heralded women and women denigrated to being titled "scandalous" was their perceived sexuality. Regardless of whether their displays were forward and positive (like Sojourner Truth's display) in regards to addressing women sexuality any correlation to "sex" is considered racy if a woman is involved. In my opinion, not much has changed today. Although through time no one disputes Mrs. Truth’s impact and intent, her action was and still is considered shocking, even a bit much in mainstream.

My question I pose to you is will the mainstream ever view women as professionals and in a positive manner even though their message or sexuality does not align with the mainstream imposed perception of female modesty? I am well aware of the phrase never say never, but this may be the exception. I hope to read some insightful responses.

What does sex have to do with your heart health? Sex can have a major impact on your health, both mentally and physically. The benefits can be positive or negative depending on many factors not limited to your current health condition, sexual activities and hygiene, whether you’re monogamous or promiscuous, and so on.

Now that we are in February, the month of L.O.V.E., I want to talk about how sex can help your heart and overall health. Now with everything in life, this notion has several caveats to keep in mind. Unprotected sex/fellatio, sex with multiple partners, poor sexual hygiene, promiscuity, and unsafe fetishes are actions that can have a profound and negative impact on your health and your heart……your bank account, reputation and mental state for that matter!

Assuming that you are in a healthy and stable relationship, many physicians agree that sex is good for your health. Benefits that can be enjoyed from being more sexually active include:

  • Reduces Risk of Heart Attack
  • Lowers Blood Pressure
  • Releases Stress
  • Improves Bladder Control
  • Lessens Pain
  • ….and much more!

According to WebMD feature article, 10 Surprising Health Benefits of Sex, sex can even help your immune system! With all of these benefits why not get busy more often! Sex is often portrayed in a negative or frivolous manner in media throughout our society. However, I want to make sure that we acknowledge that sex is a normal adult activity and when healthy, consenting adults, sharing in a stable relationship engage in this normal activity, we should acknowledge the benefits that can be gained. Let’s keep on loving folks; Valentine’s Day is right around the corner! Boost your heart health with a little more sex.  Need help with setting the mood? Click on Bk by Tj's Shop link to view and purchase healthy products.

What is Healthy Loving? Well, healthy loving to me is a combination of many things. Let’s see, a good baseline to start from is being of sound mind and judgment while choosing to participate in sexual activity with a partner or yourself.  Then ensuring that your own body and your partner are healthy enough to partake in the sexual activity desired. I would also recommend having accurate knowledge about safe sex and healthy sexual practices.  You may be thinking “Really?” in a very sarcastic tone.  To that I would say “Really.” in a very serious tone. 

You would be amazed at how many yeast infections could be prevented if people only washed their hands before touching their sensitive spots; or using lubricant instead of spit. 

If you choose to use adult toys or massagers as I like to call them, make sure you know what constitutes a body safe product. Different materials used in the manufacturing of toys, lubricants, and materials can cause irritation, infections and other adverse reactions to occur. There are so many tips and tricks, that it can be overwhelming to decide what massager to use or what advice to heed. It is also easy to succumb to bad habits in the heat of passion. In this new year I hope to help take some of the guess work out of intimacy. I chose to continue as a BK consultant because Bedroom Kandi has released several new products to augment the already excellent boutique line that focuses on body safe products and education about practicing healthy intimacy behaviors.

This is a great time to upgrade your skills and knowledge. I plan to enhance my own intimacy repertoire and hope that my journey inspires and assists you in your journey to engage in better, healthier, and safer intimate experiences. You don’t want to miss any of my future postings like “Toxic Toys & Boys”, “The Back Door Chronicles”, and more!   

I look forward to learning and growing with you. Make sure to like me on FB & Cheers to the New Year!



    A lady of many talents and master of a few looking to share knowledge about positive self images and body safe sexual products and activities for the mature and sometimes "searching to be mature" audience.


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