Well, as always, I am here again to share tidbits about healthy loving from all perspectives; and the summertime feel has me reaming with ideas and excitement about improving love for myself and others. So that we are all on the same page, I want to re-iterate although sex is a very important part of healthy loving in relationships - communication is just as, and from my perspective MORE important. Physical attraction can fade over time, but when you have good, consistent communication it serves as a persistent regenerative stimulus that feeds your attraction for your partner. Just as good communication is a stimulus, bad communication can breed resentment and serve as an ever growing wedge. Do you consciously evaluate how you communicate with your partner? Have you noticed a trend of negativity or positivity on how you or your partner speaks to the other? Do you want to improve the quality of your relationship(s)? A mechanism I often use, even before I knew it was an actual technique, is Self Talk. Self-talk is basically speaking to you. How you communicate with yourself is more important than you may think. If you are constantly saying negative things, even if it is in jest, can be destructive to how you see yourself and can shape how you speak to people in your relationships. Inversely, positive self-talk can elevate your self-perception and provide positive benefits to how you project and communicate in relationships. Using positive self-talk like, "I did a good job picking out this wall paint color", is by no means the end all - is all to fixing your communication in relationships, but it is an excellent starting point and will help develop a strong foundation to getting in touch with who you are and how you think about things. Although I consider myself and endless work in progress, using this technique has helped me tremendously in maturing how I think and I strongly encourage you to give it a try.
So enjoy your summertime, ease your life one day at a time with small improvements that will overall have a big impact. Healthy loving...from all perspectives. Until next time ~ Tj